Top or Bottom?

Date: March 17, 2019

Edit: May 31, 2019

Most of people may have already known that Top refers to the guy who love the same sex, but it is specific for the guy who is stronger and manly in the way they dress or behave. Unlikely, the Bottom refers to the weaker gay guy who is likely to behave as a girl. In accurate word, the Top plays as a man, and Bottom plays as a woman.

In Dating App, most of people tend to start a conversation with question “Top or Bottom?”. Curt and unworthy opening.

How do you feel to be asked those such as question?

The majority found this is usual to ask or be asked before they have to go for further conversation. They may think it is a waste of time to get to know people they have never plan for. And they end the chat immediately when they come to know the out of expected answer. Without word.

But have you ever thought that this type of question is really rude, and it should have never been asked at all? It is like they are asking for the position of sex, the how we would like to be in bed. Is it that necessary? It is suitable? Is it really okay to ask people you have just known or at the beginning of the talk?

We, LGBT, have always said “Love knows no gender. Love has no border.” So why does it seem so important to know the position of sex before we have to know someone new? Why can’t we just try to learn about each other first? Or can’t we just start a conversation in a dating app without the word SEX in our head?

Have you ever thought that the question of Top or Bottom is to ask for sex partner instead of a life partner?

Actually, when it come to love, the position of sex is not that really matter for those who love each other as long as they could get along. I believe that if two people really love each other, one would definitely be willing to fulfill one another’s need.

Have you forgotten? We don’t even care if they have the same sex as ours, so why does the position matter?